For a long time, society has told us that women are more emotional and dramatic. That we are all longing for a prince charming- or someone with a lot of money- to come find us, out of the billions of people on the planet. Then we have a wedding fit for a princess with lots of poofy and sparkly dresses and pretty colors and magic falling from the sky. Then our life is complete and we are awesome housewives and live happily together forever and ever.
Happily ever after my ass.
The media has also taught us about how men are easy going and just go with the flow and can stay detached from their feelings. They are less emotional and more grounded and get applauded for being players. They never think about marriage and then out of the blue some angel drops onto their lap and they take away her independence and try to trap her in a kitchen. Bullshit.
This movie exposed what some people refuse to believe: girls can be just as detached as guys and boys can be more emotional invested and complicated like some girls are. These independent girls are often singled out as crazy or weird or sluts. Just like boys, not all girls want to be in a relationship. Some of us just like having fun and having to DTR (Define The Relationship) is annoying. Why can't things just stay how they are? Why do labels need to be attached? Why must emotions and facebook statuses get involved?
Not all girls have a white dress goal. Some have their wedding planned out, some have dates they want to be married by, some just don't give a flying fuck. Just because we can fool around or be really great best friends doesn't mean we all want more than that. Not saying we don't care, just saying that we don't want to be exclusively tied to you with emotions and having to be required to get each other gifts (instead of just being nice) or having trust issues about being around other people or communication issues (opposed to just not talking for a while because you have nothing to say). I mean I love everyone in my life, that doesn't mean I'm in love with you.
Everything gets more complicated when you involve emotions. Everyone knows that. Anyone who doesn't is incredibly dumb. And now knows it. And just because we don't want to be in a complex relationship constantly doesn't make us bad people. People who lie about it are bad people. Don't be a tricksy bastard with potential suitors.
At the end of the movie you end up feeling sort of bad for the guy. He fell in love with a girl who said she doesn't believe in love and who doesn't want a boyfriend. That is not her fault. I'm not saying it's his fault, but it is definitely not her problem. She was straight up with him and he brought to the bedroom emotions that she didn't have or want. Usually it's the other way around and they guy doesn't want commitment and the girl is all like "Oh but I love you!" and then is like "You're an asshole I can't believe I fell for your stupid lies!" It's nice to see a little heartbreak go the other way. Go ahead and call me a terrible person for saying it's a good change of pace to see a strong independent woman get what she wants and see the all-mighty white man fall to his knees for being unable to listen to her. Personally, I think he should go make her a sandwich.
"When in doubt, aim for the balls."
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