Double-edged sword

I'm watching one of my favorite shows. Sex and the City obviously. I've got my own Carrie, Miranda, and Charlotte in real life. The episode that I'm watching is when Miranda is aware of the difference in salary between her and Steve. Steve gets offended that Miranda can/wants to buy him a suit. And Miranda wants to pay for dinner or lunch for them but Steve won't let her so she always chooses cheap places for food. That way he won't have to spend as much money. It just shows the differences between men and women and the double standards that women have on them. Miranda even said that. A single man with money is attractive but a single woman with money is a threat.
          But it's true. To be a very independent single girl can be rough. Apparently it becomes intimidating. I mean, if you were a single girl you can either be too clingy and needy or too independent and stand-off-ish. Like they hate men and can't live with them in the same world or that they can't survive a day without a penis near them. There is a happy medium. But it's not often shown in the media, or I'm just not watching enough TV recently.
         One of my absolute favorite movies is The Breakfast Club. And even they talk about the double edged sword battling girls. When Claire is being pressure to say if she is a virgin or not, Allison reminds her of this. Granted they are in high school but it still applies to older women as well. If she says she's had sex, then it qualifies her as a slut. If she hasn't, then that makes her a prude. And it doesn't matter if her answer has a justifiable reason, judgement has already been passed. This still is applicable to college aged women and older as well. There is a societal expectation that individuals at that age have had sex but that is not always true. The older a person gets and is a virgin, the more rare they are. A whole movie was made about old virgins. But if a girl has slept with too many people, then she is easy and a whore. There is a fine line between being cold and weird and being a sleazy ho-bag. No one knows where that lines is and I know girls who worry about walking that line.
          Another place where there are different standards is in the work place. A woman can try and go for a raise. But in a competitive market, a woman could be construed as either aggressive or assertive. They seem quite similar, yes? But when applied to a working woman, they can be different. Being assertive is a good quality to have. It implies respect and still having the ability to take charge. While being aggressive shows no responsibility and just a push for dominance. When a woman goes for a promotion they often are viewed only as aggressive. Like if a woman wants to continue to work even after she has had children. What if she doesn't want to be a stay at home mom? Then there must be something wrong with her maternal instincts and she must be broken. I disagree. I know stay at home dads. There's nothing wrong with them. So if a woman is passionate about her career why should she have to sacrifice everything while men get to do whatever they want? I think that a woman can do whatever she wants to do just like a man can. And should be able to do it without the excessive judgement.

None of this is fair. And I know there isn't a lot that is fair for different people. Men will always think they are better and that they can control what's going on in the world around them. Well guess what bitches. Your testosterone gets turned into estrogen so you can have properly developed brains. Oh men are smarter? When can't your testosterone perfect your brain to be functional? Obviously the female hormones are more important. So fellas, shut the fuck up.

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